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Patsy and David, 2008

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Patsy and David, 2008 Wedding, Delhi, 1966 Wedding Anniversary 1991
99. 01 1993 Appeal for Oxford Centre at Radcliffe Infirmary 99. 02 1993 Launch of Oxford Diabetes Centre
 
 
Interview 99 David M

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Born in Buckhaven, Fife in 1941.


Overview: David met Patsy while working as a tea-planter in India and came to England after their marriage in 1966, to escape the prejudice they`d encountered because Patsy was Anglo Indian. He worked as a prison officer, then prison governor until retirement at 60. Patsy developed diabetes in 1985 and they managed well until she had a stroke in 1999 and needed full-time care. He doesn`t want respite care, because he wouldn`t enjoy holidays without her, but he would like the Carer`s Allowance that was stopped when he got his pension, because `people who care for people…save the country a fortune`.

Please note that Overview relates to date of recording 10 June 2008

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1 After Patsy was diagnosed with diabetes, David learnt to spot the signs of low blood sugars before she did and to take rapid action. [ 60 secs ]

2 After Patsy had a stroke, he found that a continuous learning process began for them both. [ 61 secs ]

 
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01 Born Scotland. Left school at 14 – mines, Merchant Navy, tea planter in India. Met wife – Anglo-Indian. Returned to England, 1966. Prison officer 10 years, then prison governor. Retired at 60. Son born 1968, daughter 1970.
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02 Married 1966. She got diabetes 20 years later. Diabetes in her family, but GP didn`t believe it, until suggested by optician, 1985. Tachycardic attack – taken to Radcliffe.
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03 Decided to travel. Diet only. Up & down for 2 years, then tablets, until stroke in 1999 – 9 weeks in Radcliffe.
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04 At first, diet. I did urine-testing. Tried to keep weight down – both thin when married – but she was depressed after failing to get teaching job. She worked in school her, 20 years, while I worked elsewhere.
Diabetes insidious. Started insulin after stroke.
Tried foods when travelling. Thought all OK, even after tablets.
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05 `Creeping disease`. Her relatives badly affected. Should get checked.
I notice low blood sugars first. Needs whole meal to revive.
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06 I worked locally for 12 years – back in afternoons. I`ve always been in caring professions.
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07 Stroke 11th Jan 1999. Helped her dress & undress – realise this will be rest of life. I sort her tablets. Eye problems before stroke. Cataract op while in hospital for stroke – good. Later laser treatment caused sight loss. Wife says sue!
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08 Wife avoided woman who made mistake. Other surgeon attempted correction. I retired 2 years later. Harder as you get older – wheel chair heavy.
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09 She couldn`t return to work. Lived with daughter for 2 years, while I was away. Still learning. Cheshire Home on Weds – sees worse off – helps them. Avoid self-pity, plan holidays.
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10 Learn to dress her, tend feet, cut up food. Medicine side-effects. Father had strokes – hard for my mother. OK if it`s your wife.
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11 Had to learn to push wheelchair. Give each other space – go to gym – fit to push wheelchair – can`t get her up if she falls. Toilets difficult abroad – sometimes not allowed in ladies. Embarrassment.
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12 We sometimes argue. Eyesight makes it hard to pour kettle or salt. I`ve just had 1st weekend away – daughter came.
Before stroke, managed diabetes well. Attribute stroke to diabetes. Diabetes creeps up. Children inject happily…
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13 …Ill children laugh more than cry. I joke a lot. Nanny state annoys me more than wife`s stroke.
Lucky to be able to visit wife in hospital & rehabilitation – met people who arranged practical aids.
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14 Have to do everything in house & garden – takes time. Don`t want more respite care – wouldn`t enjoy going away without Patsy.
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15 Stopped Carer`s Allowance when got pension because can`t have 2 ‘benefits`, but pension not benefit – paid by taxes. Care Allowance needed more as get older. Carers save country money.
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16 Enough money for war. Cost of living going up.
Good neighbours. I`ve just been away – neighbour drove me to bus.
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17 We`ll be fine, if wife doesn`t get worse. My father was worse. In future, euthanasia may help people. If something happened to me, wife would go into home. I may become diabetic. "I`m not going to let this get me down".
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